Thursday, August 17, 2017

girls are supposed to be petite.....

so the other day I took the kids to the park to play, as I watched our youngest daughter chase our son around, I overheard a mother and her young son talking.

the little boy had asked his mom why his sister- who was 3 or so- was so much smaller than a few girls there around her age. his mothers response without even missing a beat was "because girls are supposed to be petite." he then proceeded to ask what petite was and she clarified that it was small and thin.
I am aware of the fact that this is a bra ad, however the message in this is that sex sells.... why are there not any women featured in this over a size 10 ? 

Now I am not one to judge, and telling your child whatever is your prerogative. But this gal must have never been shamed for her looks growing up.she was maybe 5'6' dark brown gorgeous brown eyes and a small frame.  In todays world we have a lot of folks defining what boys and girls should look like. Men are supposed to be tall, women are supposed to be shorter, men are supposed to be muscular and women need to be thin. This creates such an unrealistic view of what we as individuals look like. so then you have guys and girls out there with this idea of what we are "supposed" to look like and were totally unhappy with the body we have.
I will admit, at a current 319 pounds, I am honestly not thrilled with myself. part of this is because no matter how hard I fight, I am not comfortable in my own skin. Most of my childhood was spent being bullied for my weight, and then the other part is that no matter  when I do get comfortable someone in society, rather it be the stranger on the street or the neighbor next door thinks, " God she is really big, how does someone let themself get that way? " I know I am guilty of it too.

But what really bothers me is that Society feels this need to tell us what a man or  woman should look like. Like just who in the hell made you god and gave you the right to tell us what we as individuals should look like? Get over yourself!
I understand that Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... But why same another person for not being what you personally like ? Why raise up another generation to be such a way ? everyone is different. We do not live in a world of black and white. We are more than just a waist size, a breast and butt size, we do not all need to look the same.
so today right now lets change our thinking of how we view the world. especially for those of you with young ones. for those of you who are showing a whole new generation of little people how to be big people!